Author: Petra Bellamy

Review by Debbie Hope, February 16th, 2023:

"Petra Bellamy writes a thought provoking book that makes you look within and at yourself. The guided suggestions given provide opportunities for an interaction with oneself which enhances reflective thoughts. Chances to proactively interact with honouring and valuing oneself are encouraged. Her personal reflections are simply phrased drawing the reader into the image of the world in which she now flourishes. 

Written from the hard, her honesty can be brutal yet endearing. Short, engaging, and straigt to the point. It highlights reality and is born from the depth of Petra's wisdom. Her style engages the audience and brings the messages clear to the reader.

This book promotes inner strength, peace, and happiness by focusing and fostering on individual development.

It's well worth a read, helping to increase personal understanding of emotional well being.

HOLISTICALLY SPEAKING

LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION: St. Peter, Barbados, is a perfect spot for relaxation and tranquility. Areas known for their serene environments often provide visitors with a peaceful escape from the stresses of daily life. Our office is in a very calm environment, just the kind of relaxation the doctor presciped for our clients. Relax, release, rejuvinate.

1.         THE IMPORTANCE OF HOLISTIC HEALING

If we just treat a symptom, we most likely miss out on the complete healing. We are not just our body, which might have a disease. Let’s say there is a problem with the kidneys and they are failing, not functioning properly. Before we reached this point of sickness, we already traveled a long journey. We are several different elements. Body Mind & Soul is a complex existence. Every disease has a cause, and every discomfort starts in the emotional realm. Let us look at stress. Stress can create tension in our body, which over time will develop into something related to the tension. It could be the tension in the neck, which creates a chronic headache. Or it could be the tension in the stomach that will create a chronic dis-ease, which turns into an ulcer. The list of diseases, created by stress is long. Therefore, we always have to look at the whole picture and not just treat the body, or the end result. We think, if we “repair” the issue, it is fixed. But what if, the repair of the end result is not what caused it in the first place? Then we will forever stuff holes until the pipe bursts completely.

A holistic approach is the better way of healing. Instead of treating the “end result” we need to investigate the cause and work on that. Our body, mind and soul as emotions work together and create our life. The way we feel depends on our emotions. Emotions are non-physical but create a physical reaction. This could be pain, cramps, tension of the muscles. 

All of which starts with the mindset. When your mind is happy, your body is happy. When we are not in the right frame of mind, we are out of alignment with who we really are. And when we are out of alignment we can get sick.

The importance of holistic care and holistic healing is pretty simple. Remember to treat yourself to a nice relaxing time after a long day of work. Or enjoy your weekend by just being lazy without the slightest feeling of guilt.

Nurturing our soul is as important as relaxing our mind. Your body will thank you.

Holistic healing is the right way to go if a long-lasting result is wanted.

Be holistic, care holistically and heal holistically.

#HolisticHealing #MindsetMatters

How can we implement relaxing structure into our daily lives?

We all know that sufficient sleep is essential to us. Missing sleep can create many issues. Ongoing lack of sleep has been closely associated with hypertension, heart attacks and strokes, obesity, diabetes, depression and anxiety, decreased brain function, memory loss, weakened immune system, lower fertility rates and psychiatric disorders. This alone is a big stress factor in our lives.

Avoiding these issues and stress is doing the groundwork for a good night's sleep.

Eating healthy will also contribute to less stress within the body. Being mindful of what is being put into the body is important.

And then there are the issues created by ourselves. We feel that we have to make sure everybody is happy. We put the burden upon ourselves that we are responsible for others' happiness. When this is the case, we have to question our motives. Are we trying to control our environment and the people in it? Often we don't understand that we are not in control of others' behaviour, thinking, and feelings. It is not our responsibility to bring happiness to others. But it is our very responsibility to make sure that we are in a good frame of mind. We have a responsibility to make ourselves happy. We need to take responsibility for our own actions. By realizing this, a big burden comes off the mind and reduces stress.

Often people themselves are the very source of their own stress. How they react to events, incidences, circumstances, or any episodes stresses them out. Instead of being in the drama, they should take a moment and look at the upsetting situation from a distance to get the full picture. Looking at the problem, assessing the situation and then quickly looking to find a solution for it. Not to dwell on the problem. As soon as they know the problem, they should seek a solution.

These are only a few things how to handle a load of stress and turn it into a more pleasant feeling of relaxation.

In my practice, I help people with their stress and stir them in a better direction. My hypnobirthing classes are exactly like that. The stress of pregnancy is tremendous. Expecting mothers often don't realize it, but the unpredictable future of the child and pregnancy, plus the birthing process, can create a load of stress. When mother and unborn child suffer from this stress, often anxiety kicks in, and then it is necessary to relax the whole situation, give my clients a toolbox full of tools to help the relaxation process. When relaxed, the body and the mind function much better, and things go smoothly. When under pressure and tension, everything becomes harder. This doesn't only apply to pregnancies but to our life in general.

I have written a book called "The Happiness Method," where I teach six simple principles applied to daily life. When those principles become part of a daily routine, and people live by them, life becomes so much easier. It is almost like paddling against the stream of a river and then turning the boat around and paddling downstream. It is so much lighter to go downstream than upstream.

Stop Being A People Pleaser!

Have you ever met a people pleaser? 

A people pleaser is someone who tries hard to make others happy. They will often go out of their way to please someone, even if it means taking their own valuable time or resources away from them.

People pleasers often act the way they do because of their insecurities and lack of self-esteem, which is often installed during childhood by parents, teachers, and elders. Yes, you read right! We are conditioned by society from day one. How we behave is judged by many people. People shake their heads when we do things we are not supposed to. Parents get judged when their children behave like little brats. With that judgment comes resentment. 

Therefore, children get punished for doing the wrong things, although nobody has really taken the time to explain the wrong and right in detail. Have they? The expectations start early in life. We are expected to learn to walk and speak at a certain age; if we are lazy and don’t prove to be “normal”, our parents are told that there is something wrong with us. A judgment of society. When we get the hang of it, society wants us to shut up or not run around like crazy. After all, children should only be seen, not being heard, right? The irony would be almost absurd and funny if it wasn’t so sad. First, we are expected to learn, and then we are supposed to suppress it after we have mastered the skill. But most of the time, we are obedient and do what we are told. After all, we should be respectful and follow orders.

The result is that we already, as children, start to become people pleasers. Our parents are happy with us when we please them. We are blackmailed into the role of a people pleaser. We are told about respect and obedience as if it is the same. But the truth is, it's not. Respect and obedience are different from people-pleasing. Obedience is to be a follower of commands. Someone who doesn’t really take initiative. The obedient child will become either a rebel later or a follower. Respect is something everybody should have for themselves. If children were taught self-respect, they wouldn’t be people pleasers. Respecting one's own boundaries makes a person aware of other’s boundaries as well. If I respect myself, I gain self-esteem and I gain knowledge of the importance of setting and accepting boundaries. 

The people-pleaser personality type is desperate to feel important and needed. Their lack of self-worth, confidence, and self-belief makes it almost impossible to set and maintain healthy boundaries with others, which leads to a lack of self-respect. But what if I have no respect for myself? How can I offer this feeling of respect for others? If I am broke, how can I lend someone money? Impossible! What someone doesn’t feel for themselves, they can’t give away. Whether it's respect, love, or compassion, it can only be given if felt for self.

Here are some quotes of people who have been on the path of “people-pleasing,” and maybe this could be you saying:

“I didn’t know I was giving up myself on a regular basis, in every relationship at home and work. My pattern of over-giving had great benefits.”

“All my relationships were one-sided: me the giver of time and favours and others happy to receive my generosity.”

Are you a people pleaser? Are you giving all of you and never receiving anything in return? Maybe it is time to nurture yourself.

Title: The Healing Power of Mindset: A Journey Within

Introduction:

In the intricate tapestry of life, the connection between mindset and healing is a profound thread that weaves through the fabric of our well-being. Our mindset, the lens through which we perceive and interpret the world, plays a crucial role in the process of healing—both physical and emotional. This blog explores the intricate relationship between mindset and healing, shedding light on how the power of thought can shape our journey towards wellness.

The Mind-Body Connection:

The ancient proverb, "As a man thinketh, so is he," encapsulates the essence of the mind-body connection. 

Numerous studies have showcased the impact of positive thinking on physical health. A positive mindset can stimulate the release of endorphins, the body's natural feel-good chemicals, contributing to a sense of well-being and pain relief.

Conversely, chronic stress and negative thought patterns have been linked to various health issues, including cardiovascular problems, compromised immune function, and slower recovery from injuries. The mind and body are intricately intertwined, and the state of one significantly influences the other.

The Power of Visualization:

Visualization is a powerful tool that harnesses the mind's ability to influence the body. Athletes have long employed mental imagery to enhance performance, and this concept extends to the realm of healing. Visualizing the body's recovery process can stimulate a positive physiological response, promoting healing at a deeper level.

Individuals undergoing medical treatments often use guided imagery to visualize the healing of specific organs or envision the eradication of ailments. This practice not only serves as a source of hope but also cultivates a mindset conducive to healing.

The Role of Resilience:

Resilience, the ability to bounce back from adversity, is closely tied to mindset. A resilient mindset embraces challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles. Research suggests that resilient individuals may experience faster recovery from illnesses and exhibit better overall health.

Cultivating a resilient mindset involves developing coping mechanisms, reframing negative thoughts, and finding meaning in difficult experiences. This resilient outlook can serve as a protective factor against the detrimental effects of stress on the body.

Mindset and Emotional Healing:

Beyond physical health, mindset plays a pivotal role in emotional healing. Trauma, loss, and life's inevitable challenges can leave lasting emotional scars. Adopting a growth mindset, which views setbacks as opportunities for learning and development, facilitates emotional healing.

Therapeutic approaches such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) emphasize the role of thoughts in shaping emotions and behaviors. By changing negative thought patterns, individuals can pave the way for emotional healing and resilience.

Conclusion:

The relationship between mindset and healing is a dynamic and intricate dance between our thoughts, emotions, and physical well-being. As we navigate the complexities of life, understanding the power of our mindset becomes a key element in the pursuit of holistic health.

Cultivating a positive and resilient mindset empowers individuals to approach challenges with grace, view setbacks as stepping stones, and embark on a journey of healing that extends beyond the physical realm. The mind, with its incredible capacity for transformation, holds the key to unlocking the full spectrum of our healing potential.

Unlocking Wellness: The Power of Holistic Therapies

In the pursuit of holistic well-being, individuals are increasingly turning to transformative practices that address the mind, body, and spirit. Holistic therapies such as Reiki, holistic life coaching, trauma release, hypnosis, quantum touch, and recovery coaching offer unique benefits for those seeking a more comprehensive approach to health.

Reiki's Energy Healing: Reiki, a Japanese practice, channels healing energy to promote relaxation and balance, addressing physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Holistic Life Coaching for Personal Growth: Holistic life coaching takes a comprehensive approach, empowering individuals to set and achieve goals across various life aspects, fostering self-reflection and positive change.

Trauma Release: Techniques aimed at releasing stored trauma from the body contribute to emotional healing, complementing traditional therapeutic approaches.

Hypnosis and Subconscious Empowerment: By tapping into the power of the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy helps individuals overcome deep-seated beliefs, habits, and emotions.

Quantum Touch's Energetic Healing: Focused breathwork and intention in Quantum Touch amplify the body's natural healing abilities, promoting balance and vitality.

Recovery Coaching for Sobriety: Recovery coaching supports individuals in overcoming addiction, offering guidance in goal-setting, coping strategies, and building a strong support network.

Incorporating these holistic approaches into one's wellness routine, under the guidance of qualified practitioners, can empower individuals to actively participate in their healing journey. While scientific evidence varies, the reported positive experiences highlight the potential for a more balanced, harmonious, and fulfilling life through holistic therapies.